Facing Shame with Empathy
Special guest: Liv Larsson (Sweden)
20 May 2019, SWPS University, Aula S306
Programme
13:45-15:15 Why so much fuss around empathy?
Magdalena Malinowska and Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez
15:30-17:00 Connection before correction
Joanna Berendt and Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez
17:15-18:45 Shame – friend or foe?
Liv Larsson (Sweden)
Additional attraction
Meeting with Beata Kosiacka
Being authentic requires courage and is often associated with exposing our imperfections. Such honesty can arouse anxiety and fear of rejection. During the break between sessions you will have opportunity to meet Beata Kosiacka, Polish NVC Trainer specializing in shame and courage, who will help you take first step towards greater self-acceptance.
Invitation
How do you deal with shame? What role can empathy play in dealing with difficult situations? While the notion of empathy is widely discussed today, shame can be a topic more difficult to approach, as it often triggers difficult sensations and avoidance patterns.
Shame is an uncomfortable feeling. It overwhelms us in the moment when we have done (or think we have done) something that is not acceptable or even threatens our place in a group or a relationship. Most of us automatically avoid shame as much as we can and judge it as a bad feeling. Therefore, many of us use a lot of energy to get rid of this discomfort. Most of the time we are unaware that shame drives us and by avoiding it, we create new problems.
We withdraw, blame, attack ourselves or brace ourselves, making relationships more difficult than they need to be.
Shame is a social emotion. Understanding shame means getting understanding of interdependence, sensitivity and human connection. This understanding will give a deeper understanding of how we can get access to more empathy for ourselves and others.
During three consecutive sessions, we will explore both shame and empathy, seen through the lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
Seminars
13:45-15:15
Why so much fuss around empathy?
(Aula S306)
Magdalena Malinowska and Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez
Firstly, we invite you to a seminar guided by Magdalena Malinowska and Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez on empathy seen as one of the basic concepts of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). During this seminar, you will get to know the main principles of NVC and its usage in everyday life.
15:30-17:00
Connection before correction
(Aula S306)
Joanna Berendt and Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez
In the following seminar, together with Joanna Berendt and Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez, you will be able to look at the ways in which we communicate and how empathy can help us to do it in a more effective way.
17:15-18:45
Shame – friend or foe?
(Aula S306)
Liv Larsson (Sweden)
Finally we will dive into the subject of shame. This session will give you an idea of how the avoidance patterns can be recognized and used as a signal that we are not fully connected to the needs of ourselves and others. With the help of The Compass of Needs Liv Larsson will be guiding us in understanding how shame affects us.
Practical information
Place: SWPS University, Chodakowska 19/31, Warsaw, Aula S306
Date: 20.05.2019
Organisers: This event is organised by the Department of Scandinavian Studies of the SWPS University in cooperation with Empathic Way Europe, with support from the Swedish Institute.
Cost and registration:
This event is free of charge. Because of the limited number of places, please, register below:
Registration form
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About the guests
Liv Larsson
(FriareLiv)
A certified trainer of Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) living in Sweden and working internationally. She is a mediator and an author of 20 books, of which “Anger, Guilt and Shame – Reclaiming Power and Choice” deals specifically with the topic of shame. Shame has become one of the mysteries of inner human life that Liv appreciates studying and sharing her knowledge about. Embracing shame means opening up possibilities to learning about human interaction and showing how to find dignity, acceptance and belonging. Her books are translated to many different languages.
https://www.livlarsson.com/
Joanna Berendt
(NVC Lab)
Coach, NVC certified trainer and NVC mediator. Credentialled by International Coach Federation, has over 1700 hours of experience. Works with leaders, teams and individuals. Since 2009 practicing Nonviolent Communication. Board Member of Foundation „Equante Fundacja Nowych Możliwości”. Specialized in unfolding human potential, building common understanding, improving communication and strengthening collaboration and supporting conflict resolution. As a mediator, she works with business and non-profit organizations, also with family-related situations. She is an author of books and publications that are inspired by coaching and NVC. She has initiated Postgraduated Studies in Nonviolent Communication in Poland. https://nvclab.pl/
Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez
(Empathic Way Europe)
Trainer of empathic communication, coach, eduScrum trainer, teacher and ex Headmaster. She works with children, parents, teachers, business and organizations supporting them through workshops, lectures or individually. She used to work at the university and in schools in Mexico City and Warsaw. She graduated Political Science from the University of Szczecin. Granted a scholarship to study at the University of Salamanca, Spain, she have finished postgraduated studies in Leadership in Education and NVC according to Marshall Rosenberg and Train the Trainer of NVC studies, at Collegium Civitas in Warsaw. Finished Business and Life Coaching at the School of Empathic Trainers in Warsaw. At the moment she is on the path to CNVC certification.
www.empathiceurope.com
Magdalena Malinowska
(Empathic Way Europe)
Empathic communication trainer and coach. She supports people in creating satisfying life and relationships (personal and professional) through individual trainings and group workshops deepening communication skills. She helps in implementing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in relationships, companies and non-governmental organisations. Her work is based not only on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) created by Marshall B. Rosenberg, but also on non-formal learning methods and on Coaching for Transformation approach. She got to know Nonviolent Communication in 2010. At the moment she is on the path to CNVC certification.
www.empathiceurope.com