Connecting When Empathy Hurts – Pernille Plantener

On trauma-informed empathy and connecting anyway.

Sometimes, offering feelings- and needs words doesn’t land well. For the receiver, it can feel intrusive and even trigger traumatic memories.  What are then our options?

This is particularly important when working in high-tension areas, as Pernille just did when she visited the Middle East. But it also plays out in 1:1 exchanges, that empathy guessing is not always welcome.

Based on Needs-Based Coaching and Resonant Language, Pernille will offer her insights, do a demo empathy session, and the participants can practice a simple way to connect to what matters without stepping over the receiver’s boundaries.

When: 6 March 2026, 16:30-18:00 CET (Berlin time)

How: ONLINE on ZOOM

Language: English

Cost: Participating in the “Time for Empathy” sessions LIVE is, as always, free. However, if you would like to have access to the recordings, you are welcome to buy them – a special offer is available while registering for the event. Please note that not all workshops will be recorded; we will do our best to indicate which ones will.

This session will be RECORDED.

Not willing to be on recordings? If you do not wish to be recorded, turn off your camera and microphone for the entire duration of the session. Recorded sessions will be available for purchase. We may also use parts of the recording for marketing and publicity across various media.

Registration: 

To take part in this workshop, register for the “Time for Empathy” event here: https://www.empathiceurope.com/time-for-empathy/

NOTE: Register only ONCE for the whole event and participate live in all “Time for Empathy” workshops organised between 1 and 8 March 2026.

About the trainer:

Pernille Plantener

Trainer in Nonviolent Communication, coach and coach educator.

I love my life. When I walk my dog ​​in the morning and see dewdrops on the grass reflecting the whole world, and when the grandchildren laugh with me, I am happy. But it was not always so. I have left the prison of hopelessness and despair that was built by loneliness, a resulting eating disorder, and then an abusive marriage.

Many helpers provided the steppingstones to my life today. Thanks to 12-step programs, Nonviolent Communication, psychotherapists, coaches, and not least Sarah Peyton and her groundbreaking Resonant Healing, today I am a person who can feel, breathe, dance, and make healthy decisions. And I support others on the same path.

I got CNVC certified in 2011, certified as a coach in 2012, and became a Resonant Healing Practitioner in 2020. I’ve been a self-employed coach and trainer since 2013.

• Read about Pernille’s course offerings here: www.needsbasedcoaching.com/upcoming-trainings

• Book a sample coaching session of 30 min for just 25 EUR, which will be reimbursed if you book another session. Book here: https://businessbyheart.as.me/intro