The NVC and Mind series. Part 3
When I learned NVC I was very enthusiastic. Finally I had found a way to communicate which was based on contact and where everyone’s needs were important. For me, it was quite easy to practice NVC with other enthusiastic participants. And then, when I tried to communicate with non-practitioners, it became more difficult. I did not find the proper words and the people I spoke to did not react as I expected.
Form versus intention
Now in retrospect, I understand that one of the problems for me was that I was more focused on the NVC form than on my intention. I tried to express myself correctly, using the four components, but was not always in touch with what was behind it. Many people around me, consciously or unconsciously, questioned my intention, and I reacted with old habits.
Do you recognize yourself? Does it sometimes happen that you want connection and when you try to reach out, people around you react by defending themselves or going into counterattack? And then you respond using “old” strategies?
You may think that NVC does not work, or that there is something wrong with how you express yourself or that there is something wrong with others. My belief is that our brains obstruct our intentions. Our conscious “I” wants contact, but our unconscious “I” wants to be right. If we are not aware how our brain works, it hi-jacks our agenda and it becomes more difficult for us to create the connection with others we are longing for.
About the workshop series
Do you want to stop “doing NVC” and start “living NVC”? Take part in a new workshop series consisting of four parts:
In this workshop series, we take help from the tools provided by NVC and focus on our intention. With knowledge of how our mind and our senses function, we can make more conscious decisions about how we want to relate to other people. Together with other participants, you will build new skills that you can use in your everyday life.
All workshops are independent and you can choose whether you want to participate in one or all of them.
Part 3. Re:active lab
16 December 2021, 18:00-20:00 (CET)
To be able to fully hear another being, to receive someone with empathy, we need to drop our own agenda. We need to be there with full awareness in the moment and not judge or analyze what the other person is saying. When we start to interpret or judge we lose connection and are no longer present. This is a skill we can learn, develop and fine tune over time. This ability takes practice.
In this workshop we will use our present moment awareness as a guide in how we relate. By practicing going back and forth between empathic receiving and being heard in our own judgments, we will prepare ourselves and build skills in being more present with others.
This workshop mainly covers the NVC topic of empathy.
The workshops are for people who:
– have basic knowledge of NVC;
– want to develop their skills in NVC;
– have previously participated in empathic listening, role-playing and other NVC exercises.
To support learning you will have the opportunity to practice new skills by:
– practicing with others in a safe setting;
– challenging and expanding your comfort zone;
– expressing yourself;
– listening to others;
– supporting and witnessing;
– repeating and building new habits.
We learn best by exposing ourselves to new stimuli in a safe context. When we act on the edge of our ability, we challenge and expand our safety zone. Through repetition of new ways of relating, we build new habits that we can bring from a learning situation into our everyday life.
Part 3. Re:active lab
16 December 2021 (Thursday) at 18:00-20:00 (CET/Stockholm time)
Online on Zoom (we will send you the link to the meeting after registration, check your email!).
To participate you need a stable internet connection, your preferred device with microphone and camera, pen and notebook.
This workshop series will not be recorded.
One workshop: 25 Euro (sliding scale 20-60 Euro)
All 4 workshops: 75 Euro (sliding scale 60-240 Euro)
By using a sliding scale we want to acknowledge that we have very different living conditions from country to country and from person to person. Choose the amount that is comfortable for you. If you give more than the suggested price, together we can support another person to participate for less.
If you have difficulty paying the minimum amount, please contact us for a possible solution.
If you have any questions, please, send a message to: firstname.lastname@example.org
About the trainer:
CNVC Certified Trainer and communication consultant
I work with groups and individuals who want to be able to communicate better and build sustainable connections in their family, with their friends, at their workplace and in the bigger community. I am offering lectures, workshops, mediation and individual training online and in person. I came into contact with NVC in 2005 and in 2009/2010 I participated in my first annual program with Friare Liv (Liv Larsson and Kay Rung). Since then I have participated in a wide range of NVC workshops both in Sweden and abroad. I started sharing and teaching NVC in 2010. In 2017, I became a certified NVC trainer by CNVC. My main focus within NVC has been to teach the NVC fundamentals, community building and to organize major events, such as the European and the Swedish NVC festivals. What captivates my interest lately is how we humans develop as individuals and when we are part of groups. And how this evolutionary drive affects our ability to learn and integrate NVC into our life.