The power of not knowing all
The NVC and Mind series. Part 1
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When I learned NVC I was very enthusiastic. Finally I had found a way to communicate which was based on contact and where everyone’s needs were important. For me, it was quite easy to practice NVC with other enthusiastic participants. And then, when I tried to communicate with non-practitioners, it became more difficult. I did not find the proper words and the people I spoke to did not react as I expected.
Form versus intention
Now in retrospect, I understand that one of the problems for me was that I was more focused on the NVC form than on my intention. I tried to express myself correctly, using the four components, but was not always in touch with what was behind it. Many people around me, consciously or unconsciously, questioned my intention, and I reacted with old habits.
Do you recognize yourself? Does it sometimes happen that you want connection and when you try to reach out, people around you react by defending themselves or going into counterattack? And then you respond using “old” strategies?
Our brain…
You may think that NVC does not work, or that there is something wrong with how you express yourself or that there is something wrong with others. My belief is that our brains obstruct our intentions. Our conscious “I” wants contact, but our unconscious “I” wants to be right. If we are not aware how our brain works, it hi-jacks our agenda and it becomes more difficult for us to create the connection with others we are longing for.
About the workshop series
Do you want to stop “doing NVC” and start “living NVC”? Take part in a new workshop series consisting of four parts:
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Part 1. The power of not knowing all (evolution of our brain, how we receive the world, observations, feelings and needs) – 21 October 2021
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Part 2. Radical responsibility (self-empathy) – 18 November 2021
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Part 3. Re:active lab (empathy) – 16 December 2021
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Part 4. Honest high-jumpers (expressing your honesty with ease) – 13 January 2022